Frequently Asked Questions
If you are considering psychotherapy in Westchester County, NY, you may have some questions about what it entails. When people call to ask me about therapy, I am always happy to talk. Remember, there are no “wrong” questions, and opening up the conversation is the most crucial part. Here, I have provided some answers to help you get started.
What is the first step?
I encourage you to call my office for a complimentary 10-minute phone consultation. I reserve time in my day for new client calls, and our first conversation is vital to me. If you are leaving a message, let me know when to call back. When we do connect, I will ask you to describe what prompted your call, whether or not you have had therapy, and what has or has not worked for you in the past. You can then decide if you would like to schedule your first appointment.
What happens in a therapy session?
At our first meeting, we will talk about what motivated you to find a mental health counselor in Westchester County, NY, and I will share my approach with you. I believe therapy is an active process that requires both of us to participate fully. As your therapist, I will be engaged in a mutual effort to change something about your way of living that is hurting you. Your healing is our shared goal.
How will I know if you are the therapist for me?
A good mental health counselor in Westchester County, NY, supplies the necessary ingredients for healing: a safe environment, patience, interest, humor, support, and a fresh point of view. At the end of our first session, I want first-time clients to feel empowered to evaluate me and my approach to therapy. As the client, you decide whether you would like to schedule another session and begin the long-term process.
How often will we meet, and for how long?
To create emotional change, clients and therapists need to build a relationship. A weekly session is the best way for us to accomplish this. I also believe three months represents an excellent solid commitment for both individual and marriage counseling in Westchester County, NY. It is a safe bet that the issues that brought you into therapy developed over many years. By comparison, three months is not long. At that point, you and I will evaluate the process and assess your progress.
What happens in marriage counseling?
For me, the first step is looking at how partners talk to each other. Do they communicate with respect and courtesy? Do I see signs of deep friendship? Were these foundations present from the beginning or was their absence hidden by sexual attraction, fantasy, excuses, and rationalizations?
We will also explore everyday stresses such as work, children, money, in-laws, and extended family. Even in healthy marriages, these issues can erode intimacy – both emotional and sexual – and we will talk about how they might be impacting your marriage. During your marriage counseling in Westchester County, NY, we will also talk about each partner’s family history. What kind of marriage and family-life patterns did you learn from them? Some of these patterns are good; some might be impacting your relationship today. Once we identify them, we will understand the system of energy in the relationship that keeps unhealthy and frustrating patterns going. We will learn ways for couples to draw comfort instead of conflict from their relationship.
How hard is it to get an appointment?
If your schedule is tight, we will want to compare calendars. For marriage counseling, please provide relevant details about your spouse’s schedule, as well. It is good to know in advance if our schedules will mesh.
Do you accept insurance?
Your insurance company may provide out-of-network reimbursement for a portion of your therapy costs. Check the specifics of your policy in advance. If this is the case, you pay for sessions in full and then submit payment information to your insurance company to claim the covered portion. I am not affiliated with an insurance company, and my office does not process insurance claims.
Does therapy help?
Yes. As a practitioner and beneficiary of psychotherapy in Westchester County, NY, I can attest that it works. I have been in practice for about 40 years and have seen people work to change the way they think, feel, and behave to transform their lives. Therapy brings clarity, improved vitality, and opens hearts to healing and growth. It has been said that therapists introduce new worlds and I have seen this happen over and over again in my clients.