I am here to help you.

Everyone needs help once in a while, and when our relationships are not going well, we suffer. I am a Clinical Psychologist and helping you deal with and improve your relationships is my business. Having done this work for 40 years, I am quite good at it.

Covid, and the stresses that the pandemic brings to us add layers of difficulties to the challenge of keeping our relationships strong and happy. Under ordinary conditions, maintaining good energy in our relationships can be hard. There are important questions that you can ask yourself and your partner in the midst of relationship stress.

  • Am I tolerant enough?

  • Do I blame my partner rather than take a look at myself?

  • Do I tell myself “stories” about my partner, such as “he doesn’t understand me” or “she is insensitive to my needs”?

Self-care is making a space inside yourself to hold and see the feelings that you are carrying.

You may have been frustrated in your relationship for a long time, and grumble that “he has never understood me, or “she has always failed to get who I really am.” Be careful about using “always” and “never.” These labels pigeonhole your partner, and worse, make your thinking less flexible.

Remember, it takes a strong person to recognize that help is needed. It is not a weakness to reach out for it! Again, I am here to help you to look at yourself honestly and to look at and care for your relationships. You may be feeling anxious and depressed. Together we can find ways to reduce these painful experiences and build hope for their improvement. We can also work to find humor in your life!

There are many tools that you can use to help you maintain connections with yourself and keep your social world vital and alive.

Reach out to me. Sometimes just having a well-trained and responsive listener to your problems can be enough to get the ball rolling toward greater mental health.

Dr. John Gerson, Ph.D.